Friday, August 22, 2008
are you in or out?
ever thought you were a part of something....i mean REALLY a part of something, only to find out that reality was much different then you thought? sometimes we just perceive our "in-ness" a little stronger than it is....but i think sometimes...we are actually in...and then get put out. how come?
i've got to say, i'm pretty sure i've been the one thrown out AND the one that has thrown people out in the past. doesn't that sound sad and mean all at the same time? it's kind of like laughing as a giant wave crashes down on an unobservant friend, only to find yourself drenched with the next offering from the ocean. you were too busy laughing at your friends calamity to notice your impending wetness.
i think reality is that we are all fickle, fragile, inclusive, protective, self-centered people. and sometimes that range of character flaws come crashing together in some kind of emotional log jam that the giver or the receiver can't quite navigate through.
so what do we do? if we've all got this propensity to insensitivity (look out)....how do we respond? i think the only prudent thing we can do...is offer grace. we've all been there...we will be there again...and at the end of the day...true friendship is worth so much more then any type of short term satisfaction that we might get from lashing out or unforgiveness. grace. we can all give a little...